BECKLEY, WV (WOAY) – The holidays are supposed to be a joyous time of year, reconnecting with family and friends.
But for those who have lost loved ones or are estranged from them, it can amplify feelings of isolation.
There are ways to cope and look out for others struggling with depression.
Feelings of sadness, anxiety, and loneliness due to the loss of (parents, siblings, or good friends) coupled with other life stressors, can make the holiday season a mixed bag.
“Have to understand that we all have a responsibility. We build up the tempo, we build up the process where people are supposed to be having a good time, said BARH Psychiatrist Dr. Ahmed Faheem. “Everybody is going to be happy, cheerful, singing, dancing, and throwing parties. However, that’s not the same for everybody.”
Be more sensitive to the people around you. Don’t hesitate to ask, ‘What are you doing for the holidays?
Faheem says they often say nothing: ‘I’m going to sit at home and won’t be missed.’ It’s an indirect call for help.
“You will need to take the initiative to invite them, to get them included, to just talk to them,” the psychiatrist said. “Look for signs: people who have been withdrawn, who have been missing work or school, who have been more tearful, even the reverse – more irritable, negative.”
Those who are prone to depression may have a tougher time in the spring and fall — whether it’s seasonal changes or an algorithm. If they are feeling down, hopeless, helpless, staying in bed, and have no interest in activities they typically enjoy.
“So don’t hesitate to ask questions, don’t hesitate,” said Faheem. “It’s not being intrusive; some people might say, ‘thank God you asked. I thought nobody cared.”
Also, be mindful of your own mood. According to the psychiatrist, one may be more inclined to go down the wrong path during holiday time.
“Start drinking more, start gambling, or just do negative things to cheer themselves up,” he said. “And I think that also is not best for you.”
People are in need and suffering. That need never stops.
“Charity begins at home,” said Faheem. “And so you be that person who takes the first step.”
